From the time that my kids were babies I noticed the impact that music had on them. I’m not talking about stuff like early development, or IQ, or something that science would value – I’m talking about what I valued as a mom. Which basically means I tuned into the music that calmed the screamers and soothed the impatiently tired.
My kids are still fairly young-ish and I still use the power of music whenever possible. I would like to say that I do this for them, but really IT’S FOR ME.
For instance, when we’ve all been strapped in the car too long and my kids start exercising their powerful vocal range and eardrum shattering pitch, I just turn up some soothing music and usually it makes the ride go a bit smoother. And then I don’t even have to duct tape any of them to the roof of the car, which scores me a lot of good parenting points.
I also rely on good music every night when the kids go to bed. We’ve always kept CD players in their rooms, just so we could play music at bed time. It is invaluable at our house. We like to change it up sometimes and have played Primary songs, classical music, well known lullabies, and various instrumental music CDs.
It’s amazing how quickly a rowdy herd of kids can settle down when they’re listening to the right music. And it doesn’t just work on kids either. Whenever I feel like I’m about to implode or throw something out a window, I usually head to my favorite music streaming stations (yourLDSradio is on my list of fave stations of course) and mellow out to music until smoke stops billowing out of my ears or my stress levels start edging out of the redzone. It’s kind of amazing.
If you’d like a few suggestions on what we like to listen to when the screaming/crazy/tired/monster kids (or mom) show up, try William Joseph‘s “Be Still Collection” or Micheal Dowdle‘s “A Brighter Day” or just cut straight to the tried and true Primary Children’s Songbook favorites. And hopefully you can enjoy the benefits of a good musical influence too.
yourLDSneighborhood News for Friday, 27 January, 2012
by Cami Checketts
Sleepover are the bane of my happy home. My boys request a sleepover every few weeks, usually while the friend or cousin they want to stay with is standing right next to them. Even with the pressure of wanting to be the fun Mom (for once), I almost always say no. Even if the sleepover is at a cousin’s house or the house of a friend who I respect and trust, I am still inclined to say no.
How do you handle sleepovers? Leave a comment.
yourLDSneighborhood News for Wednesday, 28 December, 2011
Discipline: an Opportunity for Christlike Parenting
by Joel Hiller
How do my wife and I teach our young children right from wrong and find the balance between justice and mercy? In our quest to learn what discipline is effective, I’ve talked to a lot of other parents and done a lot of soul searching, and I’ve come to a few conclusions that I hope others will find helpful.
Discipline is a hot-button topic. As teachers, parents, or grandparents, how can we do it with love and empathy? Leave a comment.
As we approach the end of one year and prepare to begin a new, we can talk for a moment about helping children to set goals.
The fantastic thing about setting goals is the importance it places on making step-by-step approaches to eventually accomplishing it. Simply stating, ‘I want to get an A in math by March’ doesn’t get very far if there are no guidelines to follow, or nothing to help mark one’s progress.
Read more by Laurie W. at LDS Blogs–Children.
How do you help children learn the steps of setting goals? Leave us a comment.
yourLDSneighborhood News for Monday, 19 December, 2011
Our Home as an Island
by Jennifer Ricks
Do our lives sometimes feel full of dark, foggy winter days? Perhaps the answer to dispelling the mists of uncertainty and fear is that we need to make our homes islands, havens of safety from the world’s darkness.
How do you make your home a haven? Leave us a comment.
yourLDSneighborhood News for Monday, 28 November, 2011
Effective Parenting, Part 2
by Russ Beck
Most of us tend to parent in the same basic fashion as our mother and father. It feels natural and right to us. We are emotionally invested in our parents and love them, which means trying to look with objective eyes at how we were raised is not easy. We tend to feel as if we are betraying loved ones when we even consider a different parenting style. Yet it is essential for us to predetermine what kind of parents we want to be—otherwise, we just end up “doing what comes naturally.” The results may not be what we truly desire for our children.
What parenting techniques have worked for you? Leave a comment.
Our kids are going to mess up. It’s just part of life. But do we sometimes worry more about what the neighbors might think than about keeping our focus on our children, who need our unconditional love as they learn from their mistakes?
We, as parents, are given the charge to create a home environment that is conducive to the spirit of God and that is also safe for mistakes to be made. If it is expected that everyone will make mistakes, then we can prepare to teach the consequences of those mistakes in our safe and loving environment, an environment where the Spirit is the teacher.
Read the rest of the story by Shiloah Baker at LDS Parenting.
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From Lisa Rumsey Harris, who teaches honors writing part-time at BYU, comes this personal essay about the redeeming power of her husband’s love.
My husband formally asked my father for permission to marry me while they were sitting in the cab of 1979 Brown Ford Explorer. Basically, in that truck, my father took out all of my foibles and idiosyncrasies, held each up to the light, and then lovingly packed all of my emotional baggage into a tight little suitcase. Then he snapped the clasps shut and handed it to my future husband.
The word that Dad kept using was “fragile.” Lisa is fragile. Like an explosive. Or an egg. Or the crazy leg lamp from “A Christmas Story.”
Read the rest on the blog Segullah.
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How does a testimony of the gospel strengthen your life? There are countless ways a testimony will also bless your children for a lifetime. Sometimes we use that buzzword “testimony” with kids and assume they already know what that means. In Emilie Ahern’s blog A Year of Family Home Evenings, her lesson “Bearing Your Testimony” gives parents a great tool to teach their families what a testimony is.
How have you taught your family about the importance of a testimony? Leave a comment.
yourLDSneighborhood News for Monday, 31 October, 2011
Effective Parenting, Part 1
By Russ Beck
Russ Beck dissects a situation presented to him, and gives you ways to deal with this problem.